chastity devices-which ones for you
chastity devices-which ones for you

Hello my locked pets! So whether you are contemplating a chastity device, or already sporting one, this is a very important step, because if you get a device that doesn’t fit very well, it could turn you off from chastity completely. But the good news is, you have all kinds of choices. We just need to determine out of all the chastity devices: which one’s for you?


I could recommend one for you, and I will. But it’s important to look them over so you can see what each one offers and how they differ. You need to know what you are getting in to! We need to select the right chastity device for you. So many choices! Now, the standard and most economical is the cb6000. They also make it in short, for those who need that.

One thing to consider is chastity care. How hygienic it the device you like and how easy to clean without access to your cock. Imagine how hot the plastic one can get.

Devices I love

I love anything from mature metal. Sleek, sexy and well designed.  Not on the cheap side and you will have to wait for your custom design. Well worth it. I also love the birdcage. Very different from the metal, it’s silicone and feels like second skin. But you should explore your options and see what appeals to you. Once you have zeroed in on one, we can set up your program catered specifically to you. I love all of these steps, working with you on this kinky fetish and getting you ready to deal with no orgasms.This is why I love being a chastity Mistress!

Chastity and Relationships

chastity and relationships
chastity and relationships

Hello my locked ones. I have all kinds of chastity pets who are single, married, or in a relationship. These are situations beyond my control, and always a consideration. My married pets know that when wifey taps, you answer and the chastity program goes on hold. Relationships are tricky anyway, and throw in a kink like chastity, it just complicates it. So it’s important when you consider a chastity program in regards to chastity and relationships.

Talk about it

I know many of my locked ones practice chastity in secret. Sounds impossible, I know, but they do it! The fear is that if they discuss it with their wife or significant other, they will look at them differently and think they are freaks.  Which you are, but in a freaky fetish cool kind of way.

Honesty can be the best policy. When you communicate it can be the 1st step in helping your wife understand your desire for chastity. Be prepared for a ton of questions, like what is it and why are you locked in chastity.

Just tell her the truth and be calm. Before you have this conversation, make sure you know the answers to these questions! It will be chastity from the male perspective, but it will help explain your attraction to it.

I actually think it’s a positive. It promises you are not fucking around, and you are not constantly jacking off! It gives a lot of control to your partner if you can help her see that. If she’s not interested, at least you have been honest. And you still have me!


Mental Chastity

Mental Chastity
Mental Chastity

It’s all in your head. Both of them. Now this may not be the kind of chastity blog that is traditional, but this is not about a traditional chastity method or device. I felt it necessary to explore this option. Necessary because some of you may experience this sometime, whether you intend to or not.

Let’s face it

There are circumstances beyond our control sometimes. ( airports, medical emergencies, family vacations, etc) So being locked up in a device can prove to be challenging. I understand these situations. I also understand if you are in a relationship, and your partner taps you for some intimate time, she trumps any device, man made or other. But once you commit to a mental cage, you must be extremely disciplined.

Mind Like a Steel Trap

This may be one of the toughest forms of chastity there is. This is not for the faint of heart or those weak in the knees or other body parts. No, this takes major restraint and control. This is the kind of chastity that truly inspires and impresses me. To have this kind of discipline is amazing! It also takes trust, as far as the Mistress/chastity pet relationship is concerned. As a Mistress, I have to be able to trust you are not cheating and staying in the “No stroke zone”.  As my pet, you have to know your temptations and how to avoid them.

Talk to Me

Sometimes a man just needs a woman to talk to.  A woman who will listen to him and let him explain his side of things, his views of the world, what he REALLY thinks about everything that he would never dare to say. Personally, all of that, while at the same time not feeling harshly judged, like a pervert, like an asshole….whatever the real world might think.  I can’t speak for all men of course…but once you have established this kind of communication it will help secure the bond and bring you closer to your Mistress. Being able to talk about your chastity fetish with someone who knows it inside and out will help you and will be one of the things you will love about being my pet.

Mental Chastity

What is it? Its being non-orgasmic without a cage. I love the word “chaste” and this is how I would describe you in mental chastity.  To not touch it….except for restroom and bathing.  And you know what ‘touch it’ means.  I’ve never been a big fan of mental chastity, just because of the sheer will power involved. You are so devoted you will not touch it.  If I want you to be a chaste male, you will be a chaste male.  I know it’s so hard not to touch it. But I want you to go through the motions of complete abstinence, fully, in my honor.

Your Security Blanket

It’s gone. That cage that kept your hands off is no longer attached.  But my ownership of you is now your security blanket. It is important to me that you remain chaste and not touch it, to not have orgasms. But cage or no cage,  you are my chastity slave.  And if it’s hard on you, well, too bad. You will do it anyway for me, your Mistress.

New to chastity

new to chastity
new to chastity

Hello my locked ones, and locked ones wanna be’s! Welcome to the world of orgasmic denial, discipline and control. If you have always wanted to try out this kink, now is as good as time as any! If not now, then when? I mean, why wait? Lets set up your program and get you ready to begin. When you first get locked up, it must be with me. This is why you have a chastity Mistress! you also need to get a mindset real quick in relationship to your cock and not stroking. Since you are new to chastity, these are things you will adapt to under my tutelage.

So you need to ask yourself if you are ready

If you are really ready, we need to talk about what type of chastity device fits you best. All things considered, like…budget, comfort and even relationship status. If you are married and can only wear it during work hours, etc. If you can afford it, I love mature metal. If you need something cheaper and faster, the birdlock is good.

These are things we need to discuss. My preference is long term chastity, and that is pretty hardcore. Can you handle it?

Chastity and relationships

chastity and relationships
chastity and relationships

Hello my locked ones! you know, I have all kinds of callers from all walks of life. Chastity is a very special favorite kink of mine, and the callers who love this fetish come all kinds of different backgrounds. I have some who are married, some with significant others and some on their own. I have some pets locked in metal, plastic, or silicone. It’s all uniquely tailored to fit your needs. But what about chastity and relationships?

That’s a hard one

Doh! OK, Homer, reel it in. Actually, can you imagine Homer locked up in chastity? That just made me smile. But this is about you, and a relationship while I have locked your penis away. How does that work? For some, very well. For others…it’s a challenge. It all depends on the circumstances.

If you are married and you are practicing chastity in secret, this can be a real challenge. I mean, if she ever snuggles up close to you in bed? She WILL notice something other then your penis being hard. lol Butt I do have several who are in this exact situation and do it successfully. But this is also telling in regards to what kind of relationship it is.

Female led relationship

My favorite kind! This is where she has the key, she determines when/if you get to orgasm. This is extreme teasing and chastity and I love it! This can lead to chastity and celibacy, but that is pretty hardcore. Butt as always, I would love to keep you locked up forever. Butt that’s just me.

If you have a partner open to being the female led, you are lucky. I would be happy to give her advice, if needed. you may also want to broach the subject first before unzipping your pants. If she was hoping for something else, you may scare her away. unless she’s like me. Then she would smile, laugh that devilish laugh and be the female lead.

chastity and relationships
chastity and relationships


Chastity Orgasms

orgasms and chastity
chastity orgasms

Hello my locked ones. This may seem like the unthinkable for a blog post, let alone a chastity program. But I do believe in rewarding those who work hard and have proven themselves. I know I often tease my long term chastity callers with the promise of being locked up forever. I believe that can happen, but they may also be allowed an orgasm along the way. Every situation and program is different, but I see nothing wrong with being in chastity and orgasms rewarded every once in a while.

Good for you!

This is meant as in “good for you”, as in a pat on the back. Butt also good for you, as far as an orgasm is good for the health of your cock. So that is why I strongly recommend milkings every so many months. That helps to ensure a healthy prostate.

So recently I had a chastity pet who has not had an orgasm since March. That doesn’t seem like a long time, but it was March of 2015!!!! That is impressive, isnt it?! Hell yes! Now this particular pet does not really respond well to milkings, so I thought it was about time to take matters into my own hands and give this deserving pet a well earned orgasm!

So even though I am a chastity Mistress, I still can enjoy allowing an orgasm! Especially when it’s been over a year, in nice long term denial because after all, chastity makes the heart grow fonder!

Good job, rogue! And well deserved! Very Impressive!

Now void!
Now void!

Now you’ll just have to wait another year to have that

screaming orgasm! It’s not exactly forever, but I can live with

you will be in chastity forever and granted an orgasm once a

year! Maybe more with good behavior? NAH

Long Term Chastity by Misstress Meredith



Hello my pets,  my locked cocks! Some of my wanna be’s  are curious about how long they can expect to be in Chastity. I myself like the answer “forever” but I know that we need to be more realistic. But I am a chastity Mistress, and Queen of long term chastity! I will design a program just for you, and in the beginning it will seem like baby steps. The reason being, before locking you in chastity for more than a few hours, you need to be accustomed to wearing a chastity device, there needs to be a breaking in period.

Break it in

I mean, you can’t expect to put on a device for the first time and discover a perfect comfortable fit. It takes a while to adjust, both physically and mentally. Wearing it a few hours each evening when home from work is a good way to become accustomed to wearing a chastity device. As your chastity Mistress I will temper the excitement of fantasy with the necessities of reality.

When you are starting out with male chastity it’s good to have a step up program. I think telling you that you’ll be locked for 6 months is just too much and overwhelming. It makes the goal seem impossible, therefore the possibility of quitting is great. But I believe it is good to talk about other locked cocks who are doing very well after months and months of denial. It proves long term chastity is not just a myth.

How long can you go?

I have callers who have made it a year without an orgasm! Some even longer! Now, this does not mean we don’t allow milkings because that, my locked ones, is a necessity for the long term health of long term orgasm denial. So, this Mistress guides your stroking and schedules periodic milkings. This allows you to feel confident that you can remain in your cage as long as possible.

Like, you know…FOREVER


Why does chastity excite me?

Why does chastity excite me
Why does chastity excite me

Recently a caller asked me “just what about chastity excites you?” and I answered without hesitation “The control”. The idea that I hold your desires in my hand, which I can lock or unlock with the key. The concept of withholding orgasms as a show of devotion to your chastity Mistress is the ultimate gift. Who would not relish that power? Of course that excites me!

Chivalry is Dead

As far as archaic thoughts of the knight riding off with key in hand as his fair maiden waits in the castle for his return. ~snap out of that!~ No, chastity now is much more modern, efficient and sexy. Especially when it’s the Mistress (replacing the fair maiden) locking up the main cock.


Stop looking at my picture and focus on what I am about to say. When you are in chastity, you are much more focused. The thought off stroking all the time has been redirected elsewhere, like pleasing your Mistress. you are no longer consumed with your cock since access is denied.

Pussy Pleasure

One of my very favorite reasons to be excited about chastity. Imagine you are all locked up and I send you right between my legs. BUT you are not allowed to get hard.

That’s right… this is not about you. It’s about me. It forces you to completely get lost in my pussy. I have your undivided attention. No thought about your hard cock, wanting to stroke it and cum. Nope. This is about your tongue caressing every fold, every soft petal and demonstrating just how well you know and love your chastity Mistress.

Now you know why chastity excites me. Are you ready for lock up?

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Does submission make you weak?

Does submission make you weak?
Does submission make you weak?

Have you wondered about this, my locked ones? I believe its just the opposite. I believe it takes a very strong person to be denied for any period of time. To show some restraint and discipline takes a strong person. Just because you may be a bit submissive in the bedroom,  doesn’t mean you cant be masculine, sexy, and strong outside of the bedroom and locked in everyday life. But what do you think: Does submission make you weak?

There is a difference between being sexually submissive and weak

What is funny is that I never really considered my locked ones as weak. Or even submissive. But yes, it is submissive, but I think it is the act alone that is submissive. To give up your orgasms is a powerful thing. Why do you do this? Oh, so many reasons! Too many to list here. But I believe it is personal and individual to each one of my callers. It also has to do with one important thing:


you trust me implicitly… I know this, and do not take it lightly. I will never take it for granted. It is an integral part of this equation. you are handing over a very intimate part of your self, your life, your sexuality. you have to trust me to take care of this endowment. Trust me to do what is best.

Do you need a release from work, from the stress and pressures of being in charge, being the decision maker? This is why some venture into submission and chastity. Other’s may be chronic masturbater, consumed with themselves so much that they need someone else to manage them and help focus on other things.

Submission is not weakness. Submission involves your trusting me at your most vulnerable time and place. Submission is honoring me with your mind, body and soul.

The Best In Metal Chastity


Compact And Clean

The Watchful Mistress is the fave among metal lovers lately, taking the spotlight in design for the most hygienic of all the devices. It has a durable open design for cleaning ease. It’s compact enough for the unfortunate little dick, yet accommodates a luckier larger cock with no problem comfort wise.

We Love Sexy Metal

Let’s face it, stainless steel is nice, and this device is perfect for the long distance keyholder. One problem is it does have the plastic lock discomfort annoyance. In this case, a Chonovault is a stylish vault to lock the key in.

Putting The Screws To You

Do you love pain with your chastity denial? Do you deserve it? Maybe you do. Boys who take it upon themselves to take their device off to ignore orgasm denial, often come crawling back to Mistress for punishment. This cage has spike punishment pins so you can’t pull out. Spike punishment pins should be ordered with your device just to keep you thinking if you really want to cheat.

I have had three happy boys in this device, and the top word is comfort. The smooth metal, the ease of cleaning, the ability to hide it under your clothes, has plenty of benefits.

Have What It Takes?

Call for an intense tease and denial session to see if you really have what it takes to experience chastity training.

Mistress Cassandra 1-800-730-7164