Chastity and Relationships

chastity and relationships
chastity and relationships

Hello my locked ones. I have all kinds of chastity pets who are single, married, or in a relationship. These are situations beyond my control, and always a consideration. My married pets know that when wifey taps, you answer and the chastity program goes on hold. Relationships are tricky anyway, and throw in a kink like chastity, it just complicates it. So it’s important when you consider a chastity program in regards to chastity and relationships.

Talk about it

I know many of my locked ones practice chastity in secret. Sounds impossible, I know, but they do it! The fear is that if they discuss it with their wife or significant other, they will look at them differently and think they are freaks.  Which you are, but in a freaky fetish cool kind of way.

Honesty can be the best policy. When you communicate it can be the 1st step in helping your wife understand your desire for chastity. Be prepared for a ton of questions, like what is it and why are you locked in chastity.

Just tell her the truth and be calm. Before you have this conversation, make sure you know the answers to these questions! It will be chastity from the male perspective, but it will help explain your attraction to it.

I actually think it’s a positive. It promises you are not fucking around, and you are not constantly jacking off! It gives a lot of control to your partner if you can help her see that. If she’s not interested, at least you have been honest. And you still have me!


Mental Chastity

Mental Chastity
Mental Chastity

It’s all in your head. Both of them. Now this may not be the kind of chastity blog that is traditional, but this is not about a traditional chastity method or device. I felt it necessary to explore this option. Necessary because some of you may experience this sometime, whether you intend to or not.

Let’s face it

There are circumstances beyond our control sometimes. ( airports, medical emergencies, family vacations, etc) So being locked up in a device can prove to be challenging. I understand these situations. I also understand if you are in a relationship, and your partner taps you for some intimate time, she trumps any device, man made or other. But once you commit to a mental cage, you must be extremely disciplined.

Mind Like a Steel Trap

This may be one of the toughest forms of chastity there is. This is not for the faint of heart or those weak in the knees or other body parts. No, this takes major restraint and control. This is the kind of chastity that truly inspires and impresses me. To have this kind of discipline is amazing! It also takes trust, as far as the Mistress/chastity pet relationship is concerned. As a Mistress, I have to be able to trust you are not cheating and staying in the “No stroke zone”.  As my pet, you have to know your temptations and how to avoid them.

Talk to Me

Sometimes a man just needs a woman to talk to.  A woman who will listen to him and let him explain his side of things, his views of the world, what he REALLY thinks about everything that he would never dare to say. Personally, all of that, while at the same time not feeling harshly judged, like a pervert, like an asshole….whatever the real world might think.  I can’t speak for all men of course…but once you have established this kind of communication it will help secure the bond and bring you closer to your Mistress. Being able to talk about your chastity fetish with someone who knows it inside and out will help you and will be one of the things you will love about being my pet.

Mental Chastity

What is it? Its being non-orgasmic without a cage. I love the word “chaste” and this is how I would describe you in mental chastity.  To not touch it….except for restroom and bathing.  And you know what ‘touch it’ means.  I’ve never been a big fan of mental chastity, just because of the sheer will power involved. You are so devoted you will not touch it.  If I want you to be a chaste male, you will be a chaste male.  I know it’s so hard not to touch it. But I want you to go through the motions of complete abstinence, fully, in my honor.

Your Security Blanket

It’s gone. That cage that kept your hands off is no longer attached.  But my ownership of you is now your security blanket. It is important to me that you remain chaste and not touch it, to not have orgasms. But cage or no cage,  you are my chastity slave.  And if it’s hard on you, well, too bad. You will do it anyway for me, your Mistress.